Don’t Stay Silent: Supporting Someone in a Suicidal Crisis

In challenging times, being there for someone in a suicidal crisis can be a daunting yet crucial task. Understanding the right things to do and say can make all the difference. Here's a step-by-step guide to navigating these high-stakes moments, based on my insights from over 20 years assessing over 1,000 individuals with risk to self and others - working in high-risk evaluation situations, including prisons, law enforcement, and emergency departments.

As I delve into suicide awareness, remember that the content discussed is informational and not a substitute for professional advice. If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, seek immediate help from a mental health professional or crisis support service.

Recognizing the Window of Intervention

Suicidal individuals often do not want to die. What they truly desire is relief from their pain. They may express their intentions subtly, creating a "window of opportunity" for intervention. Studies show more than 50% of people who attempt suicide had shared their intentions beforehand. Look for verbal cues like, “I can’t go on,” or a sudden change in behavior, like withdrawal from activities or increased substance abuse.

Effective Communication: What to Say

Being direct about suicide does not plant the idea—it acknowledges their struggle. Ask questions such as, "Are you thinking about hurting yourself?" or "Have you had thoughts of ending your life?" It's important to listen without judgment and offer validation and support, such as, “I'm here for you. What do you need?” Additionally, avoid promising secrecy; prioritize their safety and health.

Action Steps Post-Conversation

1. Remove Access to Lethal Means: Limit access to firearms or medications. Harvard studies highlight this as an effective strategy.
2. Connect Them to Help: Don’t merely suggest calling a hotline. Assist them in making calls or visits for professional help.
3. Stay Engaged: Follow up consistently after initial contact. The period following disclosure is often the most critical, as stigma and shame can amplify their distress.
4. Get Support for Yourself: Ensure you’re also supported, as you’re not solely responsible for their decisions, but you can provide awareness and understanding.

Handling Acute Risk Situations

When risk becomes urgent, with a clear plan or intent, stay with them. Call emergency services or a crisis response team, clearly stating it’s a psychiatric emergency. Directions for involuntary mental health holds vary by region, but involve contacting local authorities or health systems.

The Power of Presence

Often, the most critical aid you can provide is your presence. Suicidal individuals need anchors and connections more than solutions. Sit with them, validate their pain, and remind them that their distress isn’t permanent. The opposite of suicide is connection, not happiness.

Thank you for being the kind of person who wants to help others in crisis. Your engagement can literally be lifesaving. In our next episode, we will explore the loneliness epidemic among men and potential interventions.

Mentioned Resources:

• 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline — Call or text 988 (U.S.)
• Crisis Text Line — Text HOME to 741741
• Veterans Crisis Line — Dial 988, then press 1
• Trevor Project — 1-866-488-7386

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